Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.
Oh boy isn’t that the truth? Worry is also one of the quickest way to stop happiness in its track. We worry about things that haven’t happened yet, and we worry about things in the past that we can do nothing about. Think about all the energy you’re spending on worry – energy that would be way better used if you were focusing on the positive, happy things going on in life.
So, one of the solutions to being happier and living a more content life is to live in the moment. Be present. You don’t want to miss out on all the amazing little things life has in store for you because you are too busy worrying and agonizing about things that are outside of your control, do you? I didn’t think so 😉 The goal then for a happier life is to learn to live in the moment.
How do we do that? Start by simply paying attention to what’s going on around you right now. Enjoy the people you are spending time with. Treasure the conversations and interactions you have with them. Look around you and notice the beauty in your surroundings (when was the last time you stopped and smelled the roses or just admired their beauty?).
The different seasons give us things that we can be thankful for and be present and in the moment too. Notice how the light filters through the colorful leaves on a crisp fall day. Treasure the first few green sprouts at the end of winter. Laugh with your kids and play in the first snow of winter. Bask in the sun and look at how the light plays over the water on a hot summer day. Each day, each season, and each year has amazing treasures to offer if you take the time to stay in the moment and notice them.
Slow down and don’t be afraid to stop and take it all in – whether that be stopping to smell the roses, or stopping to listen to the sounds of a running stream or waves crashing…you get the point. Just slow down and take it in! If you find yourself slipping back into your old ways of worrying about things you can’t change, remind yourself to stop and instead focus on something pretty in your surroundings. It doesn’t matter what it is. The idea is to train your mind to live in the moment instead of the past or the future.
Does this mean you have to stop plotting and planning for the future? Does it mean that you shouldn’t look back on the past and learn from it?
Of course not. That’s not what I’m saying. These are both important parts of your life. You have to take the time to plot and plan for a future vacation, wedding, birth of a baby, etc. Those are things that have to be planned for but those are productive ways to look ahead/into the future. Along the same lines, there are also times we should look back on the past. Maybe we can make an amends to someone we hurt in the past or if nothing else, we can learn from what we did. That’s important as well.
What isn’t important or productive is to dwell on the past or future events and worrying about things we can’t change. Whenever you find yourself doing this, stop and focus on the present. It won’t take you long to get out of the habit of worrying about things outside of your control. That, in turn, gives you more time and energy to focus on what truly matters.
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